? How to Know if it is Over :( and how to Move Past it + FREE GUIDE ?

Hey this video is actually a direct question to someone that messaged me on Facebook:

“your videos have really shown me that I’m probably not in the right relationship at the moment and need to move on. I wish I could figure out how to do that. Any further advice?”

First of all, there’s SO MANY THINGS in this that I could answer with. If we were doing coaching there would be time to go through all of this.

More often than not it’s hard to figure out if a relationship is not right for you… so many of us stay in relationships because of fear, or anxiety or out of hope. Figuring this out is half the battle.

I want to give you a solution to this that will help you clarify that this is the right choice for you, AND will help you move on… because part of the things that hold you back might be because of fear.

Firstly, I need to point out something that a lot of people don’t actually realise. We get into relationships with people because HOW THEY MAKE US FEEL. Sometimes we want to feel a certain way and having a partner in crime brings those feelings out in us. They give the moments in our lives so much more depth, but in a way that we want. That means if you’re in a relationship that no longer makes you feel good, or feel in a way that you want to, and there’s no hope of change… and you’re not reacting to the situation because of something else that’s happening in your life, then its the wrong one for you.

How you can figure this out is by figuring out what exactly you want in a relationship. Define what a successful relationship looks like to you, and WRITE OUT ALL THOSE THINGS that an ideal partner might want might have.

So an example might be that you might want a relationship where you feel a wild sense of adventure (probably because in the last one it got very monotonous) so you might want somebody with a crazy job or who goes out and parties a lot. This will make you feel the way you want to feel.

The other thing is, and I can’t get into this here because there’s never enough time, that sometimes we miss the most important things in life, because we focus on the wrong thing. By writing all these things down you’ll start to think subconsciously about it all. You might find that this partner has those qualities and you just missed it… OR you might now have more reasons to end it without fear. In the end, by doing this, you won’t focus on the hurt but instead a small part of you will be hopeful because you get to meet someone who will really make you feel the way you want to feel.

And here’s the takeaway, and you might want to write this down.

Some relationships are like clothing. Sure they look damn good, but if they don’t fit, they don’t fit and there’s no use fighting. When you find the one that does fit, you will know and you’ll feel good because of it.

So be hopeful and trust me when I say that it might look like things are going downhill from here, but that’s just because you forgot to look up.

If you want I’ve compiled a quick exercise that will allow you to start this process without me, because sometimes coaching is a bit too expensive for people. I’ve done this for you absolutely for free, so make sure to click here or in the description below ?