How to Get Back With Your Ex – Ask Harvey #61

f you’ve ever wanted to get back with your ex I’m going to explain to you today how to do it.

BUT BEFORE I DO, I need to say one thing.

There are some people out there who read this email and they are full of pain. Their immediate reactions are going to be akin to:

“FUCK THAT GUY! We broke up for a reason!”
“SCREW HIM! Ex’s are ex’s for a reason.”

But guess what? Sometimes they aren’t.

Sometimes it was that the time was wrong. Sometimes it was because you needed time apart to appreciate each other. Sometimes it’s because it was just part of your dating and love dance.

I’ve personally seen many couples who have broken up, only to get back together only to get married.

THIS IS WHY HARD AND FAST RULES LIKE THAT DO NOT WORK

Instead, we want to look for Pheonix Love!

Consider this:

You know that mythical bird, the Pheonix? Well, what happens to that crazy firebird! It’s often written in fantasy novels that a Pheonix is a sort of firebird that has one amazing unique feature.

For when a Pheonix dies, from the ashes does another bird birth itself.

Honestly, the same comes with relationships!

Most people who are consumed by the idea of getting back with their ex, they forget one thing. If you try and rush back into it, all you’re doing is keeping the flame of the old relationship alive.

The pain.

The drama.

The very same thing that tore you guys apart.

So, I want you to write something down (or reply back with to this email so I KNOW you’re one of my people!):

“OUT WITH THE OLD, IN WITH THE NEW”

That is, if you want something NEW to grow, you must first make space for it. EVEN if it is going to be with the same person you once had a relationship with.

For something new to grow, there must be space for it!